I was out on a Saturday night, when I met this cute girl. We started talking, and we really hit it off. I took her back to my house where we laid together watching a movie. I took her home after the movie, where she decided to let me know she has a boyfriend. I took it like a 5 year old boy. After getting myself together, I told her that I didn't think it would be a good idea for me to call her.
She agreed, so the next day she gave me a phone call. We hung out, then hung out again the next day. We made out once, and I am starting to feel really guilty about this. I don't know this guy who she is cheating on number 1. I would hate to get cheated on, and I am taking part in this. Number 2, if she breaks up with him, it is almost as if I am obligated to date her. I know that it is her decision to cheat, and if it wasn’t with me, she might be cheating with another guy, but does that make it right? Also, if we did ever start to date, how do I know she wouldnt cheat on me. She seems like a very nice girl, but I would never cheat on a girlfriend. Even if she's cheating with me, I don't know if I can go out with a girl who I know has cheated on their boyfriend.
It is obvious that their relationship is in a bad situation right now, because I don't think she would ever do this if she had a good thing going on with her boyfriend.
I heard about this website and was wondering if I could get some answers to my issue. I have 4 questions to ask about this situation, and was wondering if anyone can respond to let me know how you feel about me situation.
#1. Is what I am doing right now wrong on my behalf? It isn't my boyfriend, but I am taking part in cheating.
#2. Could a relationship between me and a girl who cheats on her boyfriend with me ever work out in the long term?
#3. If she breaks up with her boyfriend for me, and I start to not like her as much, am I obligated to stay with her for a certain period of time because i ruined her previous relationship?
#4. If i waited until her and her boyfriend broke up to hang out with her again, would that help this situation? Or, since she was willing to cheat, does it matter if we do anymore, because I will always know that she wanted to cheat?
I appreciate any feedback that I can get on this situation, because I keep swaying back and forth. Thank for reading and any advice that I can get.
This post was originally written by Maximus Maryland Carroll College · Recreation Management · 26 Sep 2007
