Ahhh...so the day finally arrived, the first day of classes. It was bound to happen. It had been scheduled years in advance and this day had been looming since that final exam late in April. In many ways, it is good to get back to school. Welcome Week really does take its toll on you. After a week of doing absolutely nothing, you feel as though you're absolutely nothing, and the scheduling and activeness involved with classes is a change of pace to say the least. It gives you reason to wake up early, and it gives you meaning. After one day of classes it still doesn't really feel like I'm back into the whole school thing, and it will take a while for me to acclimate myself into the school zone. When you're back in classes though, it makes it very easy and accessible to meet new girls that could have very similar interests to you (purely based on the fact that you're taking the same class). Here are some sure fire methods that you can use while sitting in lecture to woo that gorgeous girl.

Rule #1: Never sit behind the girl
Say you've scoped out the class and have decided upon your target. She seems to be a nice looking girl and you'd like to get to know her a little better. It is not advisable for you to make your attack from behind her. There are many problems with this. Namely, no one really likes it when someone is peering over their shoulder. It makes them feel like they're doing something wrong, or they get that sickening feeling that they are being watched. You don't want to become that creepy guy behind the girl who makes weird comments at inopportune times. Positioning yourself in correct proximity to the girl is critical as we will see next.



Rule #2: Sit in front or next to the girl
Sitting in the front has a lot of pros, but also comes with its cons. If you're sitting in front of her, you're making yourself available to her, but not overstepping any boundaries that may make the girl feel uncomfortable. In the off chance that you get to hand something back to her this will be the perfect opportunity to smile or say hello to her and make initial contact. When you sit in front of her, she is also going to be looking at the back of your head for much of the class. This could be a good thing if you think it wouldn't be best for her to see your face, but it may also be a bad thing because then again she is looking at the back of your head. If you want to avoid this you can sit beside her. This is the best location to be when trying to introduce yourself to a new girl. At this angle, you are located optimally to chat with her about things that the professor may say and she can also so you out of her peripheral vision. Also, by sitting next to her you open the door to a number of tricks that you can use to gain her attention.



Trick #1: I dropped my pen, please help me pick it up
In college, you take a great deal of notes. A lot of people like to take their notes on laptops, but do you ever see these people leave class with a girl? Unlikely. It is critical to take your notes by hand, no matter how many times your hand cramps up. While taking notes it is common place, and almost expected, for you to drop your pen at some point during the lecture. This is good for a number of reasons. First, it will give you an opportunity to take a break from whatever mumbo-jumbo the professor is chirping about in front of you. Second, it opens the door for you to open communication with the girl of choice. The key to this exercise is the location of the drop. In order for it not to seem too planned out, the pen or pencil has to fall far away enough from you and just close enough to the girl to help you pick it up. If it is too close to you, it will seem strange for her to pick it up. However, you can also gauge interest with this. If she decides to help pick up your pen or pencil even if it does land close to you, she has also wanted to engage in communication. Girls think about this kind of stuff too (right?). This is a great way to open communication. Definitely consider it if you're thinking about trying to meet girls in class, which is where you want to meet them in the first place.

Trick #2: We should be study partners
Classes in college are best understood in groups and learning while in groups is a great way of indulging in the information and material in the course. After you have initiated communication with the girl, obviously through using Trick #1, you should ask her if she would like to be study partners. This is a terrific way to get to know a girl and spend time with them in a sober setting. A lot of interactions in college will occur when you or the girl is intoxicated, but in order for them to be lasting and memorable, they need to occur in sober settings while interacting. Being study partners has numerous benefits. From an academic standpoint, you can't go wrong with this method. Apparently, you remember 90% of the things that you teach others, and it's just a very effective means of learning material. Additionally, it gives you an opportunity to really get to know the girl and for her to get to know you. Becoming study partners is a foot-in-the-door method that works wonders if you would like to pursue anything further. Just give it a try and you'll be amazed at the results.

It is sometimes tough to remember that a lot of the time spent at college is spent in class. This is a huge realization that occurs especially right after summer. Make the best of your class experience by getting to know the people around you. That’s why Facebook started either way. Be smart. Be aware. Be the solution.

This post was originally written by The College Answers
University of Michigan · Organizational Studies · 04 Sep 2007